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of a pleasure problem It is also a self esteem of issue. Food was

always a reward or "to keep me happy" kind of thing. Food is a happy

gathering kind of thing... holidays.. going out to eat..sweet cakes on

my birthday. Even as a baby I am sure that I was given food when I

wasn't given personal attention. Diet's are a form of restrictions. When a person is on a "diet" it is

like a statement to everyone around them that they are trying to lose

weight. They are telling the people around them they can only eat a

certain foods... That food is the food that is on the diet. It is a

form of restriction on a loved one. They now have to show their love

by helping me stay on a diet. With a "diet" it seems easier for a

person to watch me sweat and work out harder to obtain that new weight

that I have set for myself. I seem to think that being one of the reasons for me being fat. As a

baby, a child is given a bottle to drink to make them happy and stop

crying. Even I give myself pleasure with food. I have learned to have

pleasure from food. Now diet, is a plan of food a person eats for life to keep a certain

weight. OK.. the rules change, and now my self esteem is up and I am

worth surviving. Yes, it is a survival issue. Eating too much can kill

me. Of course the story of being fat isn't that easily answered or talked

about. There are many other factors on the way I think about this

issue. There is much more to it. Much, much more. And this wonderful web site and you wonderful gals are helping me.

Women need more self esteem on many issues. Women can and deserve to

be happy."

- Peggy (WSE member)

Thank You Peggy for allowing me to share your post in my blog.

For people with an emotional addiction for food, losing their extra

weight is a lot harder than eating less food and getting on the

treadmill. Many people are over weight because they are suffering with

an inner issue. They will use food as an emotional void filler. The

only reason they are hungry is because they are sad. They have

confused hunger with sadness. They use food as their drug to feel

calmness. They will eat and space out as an addict does after a fix.

They will also fall into the roller coaster of self-loathing. Loathing

the fact that they once again fell into the unnecessary need for food.

People that are obese and actually have lost weight, are of two minds.

They feel like they are someone else when they are thinner and live a

life where they fear that they could fall into that food addiction at

any second. The other mind is the one that is consumed with self-

disgust and a weakness for the addiction of food. People with eating

addictions love and hate food. Again being of two minds. They try to

justify themselves, by criticizing people without food addictions.

They will drive by fast food restaurants and debate within themselves,

only to increase the need for food. Which only causes them to devour

even more than usual. They are in a constant battle with, should I or

shouldn't I. I know I shouldn't but I so want to. It's a viscous

circle for them.

One of the hardest things for obese people to deal with is the

whispers and snickers from other people as they pass by them. They

know well enough that they disgust people just by watching their

reactions, yet is is not enough to make them stop eating. Obese people

are ridiculed in public all the time and they loose out on many

relationships because the other person cannot understand their

addiction for food. Food addicts will even ignore that they are

literally killing themselves with every bite that they do not need.

They choose to not think about it, as any addict does.

Some will say that solving food addiction is as easy as just telling

people to stop being lazy, to exercise and to stop over eating. For

them, food means so many things besides fueling their bodies with

nutrients. Their addiction will totally over rule their nature to

protect themselves, health wise or society`s concerns about

appearance.

Depression, low self-esteem, history of abuse, poverty, family obesity

and emotionally troubled childhood upbringings are a few of the

greatest causes that trigger off food addiction. As I said earlier in

this article, people are desperate to fill an emptiness. Food is the

easiest route to reaching that full feeling they desire. Emotional

emptiness is the monster that creates the addiction in obese people.

You would think that with all the methods that have proven to help

people with their weight issues, there would not be a single

overweight person, but the numbers are growing faster every day.

Obesity is one of the only health issues the we know how to battle and

prevent, yet we fail to do so.

Why is that?

Is it because FAT is one of those HUSH words?

Do we ignore the overweight issues of others, so not to hurt their

feelings?

Are we doing them any favours by pretending it is OK to be

dangerously overweight?

Do we feel that if they like themselves like that, who are we to

judge them?

Do we think to ourselves, better them than me?

People that are addicted to the food drug are just as imprisoned as

any other addict. There is only one way to get off the drug, and that

is to seek help. Also they must want to get off this drug, for

themselves. They must want to feel good about themselves. To be able

to get to that point, they must build their self-esteem and address

the skeletons in their closets. This is why I created

womensselfesteem.com. This is one road to an addiction-free place in

your mind.

As you read in Peggy`s post, she has finally begun her climb up the

mountain to a better feeling person. She wanted to share this with

other women that are behind those bars of food addiction. It is

beatable. You just have to want to begin the battle.

Again HUGGZZZZ Peggy.
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